My husband and I are like so many couples our age. We were married in our
early thirties and knew we wanted to focus on our careers and travel as
much as we could before trying to have children. We had heard the warnings
from friends and family that we were 'getting old' and we should
really start a family soon, but we figured we would cross that bridge
soon enough. When we decided that we were ready for a baby, I stopped
taking birth control pills and we began trying to get pregnant. That first
month was exciting and, in the back of our minds, we thought we might
be part of the 'It Happened on the First Try' Club. After all,
I was only thirty-two and we were both in great health!
When the first month passed, I tried not to be disappointed, but I was...
we both were. I went straight to the pharmacy and bought the 'smiley
face ovulation kit' that so many of my friends said was the key to
success! The next month, we did everything 'right.' I thought
that would be the month that I would get pregnant... it wasn't...
and neither were the next several months. I felt like a failure, and each
month was harder than the last. To make matters worse, it seemed like
everyone around me was suddenly getting pregnant!
I didn't have any qualms about discussing my troubles conceiving with
people. In fact, I started finding that many other couples were having
similar problems and were relieved to be able to talk about it. Through
a recommendation from a friend, we decided to begin fertility testing
to see if we had any medical issues. During that same time, I was interested
in trying acupuncture and was given Meg's information at Pulling Down
the Moon. I didn't know if I believed in acupuncture, but was willing
to try anything at that point!
Our fears were confirmed after our tests came back and it was suggested
that we would need a doctor to help us conceive. The next day, I had my
first acupuncture appointment. Meeting Meg was refreshing - I didn't
feel like a number on a spreadsheet, I felt like she genuinely cared about
my challenges and my concerns. She helped put me at ease during a rough
week and guided me through my first stab (no pun intended) at acupuncture.
I started seeing Meg on a weekly basis, where I would update her on our
progress on selecting a doctor and the development of a plan to begin
fertility treatments. She was also a sounding board for my day-to-day
stories and, on some days, my complete frustration with this process.
We were ready to begin the next step in our fertility treatment at the
end of the month when the unthinkable happened... I finally saw that elusive
second line on a pregnancy test. After all those unsuccessful months,
and our low odds, we were able to conceive naturally.
I owe so much to Meg for keeping me calm through an otherwise stormy journey,
for listening to my weekly meltdowns, and for showing me the benefits
of a holistic approach to medicine. No matter where you are in your fertility
journey, take solace in knowing that there are people, like Meg, that
will be there every step of the way... to me, it meant the world... and,
in that world, a baby boy.