Aging Without Losing Perspective
by Kelly Lyons L.Ac., MSOM
I hear often, in session, that vibrant women feel down about their age,
due to their doctors and the internet telling them that they are approaching
an “advanced maternal age.”
At a time in society when women are dialoguing more strongly about gender
respect, I feel that it is an important topic to discuss in fertility circles.
A benefit of living in a globalizing economy the last 20+ years, is that
we have learned a few different cultural perspectives. There are as many
ways to view aging as there are people aging.
There is hard truth to the advanced maternal age story. Yes, the older
we get, the less eggs we have, and the more degraded the quality might
be. That said, there is a timeless quality to who we are as women. It
is our responsibility to nurture that non-physical aspect of ourselves
and let it be vital and well.
I don’t think harsh ageism is entirely personal. So try to hear it
at face value—someone on your team is telling you what THEY know,
statistically. As a patient, you need to take ownership of what YOU know
about you. You can cultivate your own perspective on aging, and contribute
that perspective to the work you are doing with your fertility team.
I encourage you to blow up the box, and enjoy your thirties and your forties,
as a whole person. Wrangling your reproductive life is a part of that
wholeness. We all know that something stronger than our physical bodies
is driving the desire and the dreams we chase.
It’s important to keep this “aging thing” in perspective.