by Mollie Ewing, RYT
“A mother is not defined by the number of children that you see, but the love that she holds in her heart.” -Franchesca Cox
Women struggling to have a child know that Mother’s Day can be a particularly painful day. Although we feel thankful for the moms in our lives on this holiday, it is impossible to ignore the missing piece of our family. Remembering how I felt last year on Mother’s Day, I wanted to make this Mother’s Day a more positive experience. A few weeks ago my Yoga for Fertility class was discussing the upcoming holiday with anxious anticipation, when I had an idea- we should do yoga on Mother’s Day! So we did.
The morning of Mother’s Day the yoga room was full of strong, smiling women practicing heart opening, inspiriting yoga poses to uplifting, upbeat music. Weary of the idea of support groups, being part of a community in the infertility world is something that I have avoided until recently. During my time as part of the community at Pulling Down the Moon, I have learned there is comfort in knowing that those around you understand your struggle. Watching these women practice with their chins held high, no matter how they felt physically or mentally that day, was so inspirational to me. Being together just felt better, more hopeful. Pulling Down the Moon has been a sanctuary and a safe place for me as a fertility patient. As a lover of yoga and a caregiver at heart, I want to extend this feeling of support to my peers. This Mother’s Day event and the willing participants made that possible.
After class we hung out discussing modesty-dissolving experiences with doctors, exasperating games of tag with the nurses via email and phone, awkward medications, and honest fears and hopes that only women going through this process could possibly understand. These candid conversations are a real reminder for me that, without realizing it, we are all growing tremendously in our quest to start a family. I left with a feeling of strength, courage, and kinship. It certainly changed my view of Mother’s Day.